uha! I pulled out my print out of slackbook chap 12.1.1-12.1.3 and with your help managed to just revert back to my old username - then from root used passwd username rebooted and i am in.
*********Thing is you can't just change the username because it stays linked to the /home/olduser****
In any case to make things easier for ssh on a lan dummy me just needs to create a ssh group
right?
Next lesson for me is to backup and export from this box tagged for server use to my new Desktop box, also i want to create slackware update mirror so i can start giving back.... thanks